Tag: Goals

Resolutions, writing, and all of that sort of thing..

I woke up this morning. Correction, I was woken up this morning by my child. Ate waffles, drank coffee, played, then went to the park while my wife hit up Costco for necessary stuff. Costco is one of those places that gives me hives so I like staying home with the kid and letting my wife handle that madness. Now it’s afternoon, wife and kid are napping, Costco imitation LaCroix is in the fridge, coffee is made, so I figured I would knock out a bit of blogging and maybe some reading.

Even with the hectic holiday schedule sucking my life away I’ve made it a point to write a bit every day. Mostly in my pen and paper journal, but even put down some words towards my 2020 project. My daily journaling and idea writing has become important to me and I enjoy going back through old notebooks and re-discovering thoughts and ideas.

One of the obvious topics around this time of year is resolutions. What will I do this year. I’m big on planning and aiming for goals. I like to set one big goal and break it down into smaller ones in order to track progress. David Steward has a great series of videos on goal setting and accomplishment, his playlist called Keys to Prolific Creation is worth any creative persons time.

So, my main goal for 2020 is to complete my pivot away from short story writing into full-length novels and publish my first independent novel. A challenge due to the fact that I will be somewhere in the South Pacific working, for the majority of the year.

In other news, the recent topic of discussion has been the re-focus on blogs. Jon mentions it here and I’ve seen others bring this up. I’m an advocate of this idea and will do my part towards switching the focus away from Twitter, a platform that is horrible for discourse and community. I’m going to aim for a minimum of two posts a week and aim to refocus my commenting here instead of elsewhere.

I think multi-blog discussions like The Pre-Tolkien Challenge I ran in 2018 is a great way to build up blogging communities with discussion that goes much deeper than anything you can generate on Twitter. Personally I discovered a lot of great fiction due to that challenge. Let’s do some more in 2020.

Goals and Resolutions 2018

In four days it will be 2018, a whole new year of adventure and excitement. With the dawning of the new year, many of us will take the time to reflect on the past and plan for the future by making traditional New Year’s Resolutions. According to some random internet poll, that I found on Wikipedia, 50% of Americans make resolutions. Unfortunately, 88% of people fail, with men having a 22% success rate and women only 10%.

I use an unruled moleskin for everything, story ideas, lists, random lines, sketches. Freeform Journaling is an indispensable part of my life. 


I like goals so I make resolutions every year. Not only do I make them, I make sure that I put my plans down in writing and make a digital copy that I keep on my phone that I use to motivate and keep myself on track. I believe in the power of goal setting and the concrete permanence of physically writing them down allows me to conceptualize and solidify the ideas.

Last year I made three resolutions. Unfortunately, all three were rather vague and didn’t specify concrete milestones or achievements. Looking back I genuinely succeeded on one goal, but the other two are somewhat up for debate. So this year I decided to take a systematic approach and use a rule of three style setup. Three general resolutions or visions with three specific milestones each.

Using sets of threes imbues the process with a mythological magic, three is a powerful number. Three witches, three wise men, three sisters, three little pigs, three Christmas ghosts, three Musketeers (ok ok four technically), three Brothers Karamazov(spoiler… ) on and on. Three is magical.

So this year I picked three areas of life that I wanted to focus on, improve, and advance in. Physical health, writing, and family life. For each one, I wrote a one to two paragraph vision on what I want to achieve this coming year. These paragraphs I scribbled on the left side of my journal. Then, on the right side of the page, for each of the three, I chose three concrete and attainable goals pertaining to the overall theme.

  1. Resolution: One or two paragraphs.
    • Goal 1
    • Goal 2
    • Goal 3
  2. Resolution: One or two paragraphs.
    • Goal 1
    • Goal 2
    • Goal 3
  3. Resolution: One or two paragraphs.
    • Goal 1
    • Goal 2
    • Goal 3

For example, my first Resolution is as follows:

PHYSICAL HEALTH & FITNESS: 2018 will be a year where I will seriously focus on health and fitness. With the implicit goal of drastically improving my strength, endurance, and overall well being. I will completely eliminate horrible vices such as smoking and binge drinking, two behaviors that I significantly decreased in 2017 but still indulged occasionally to my detriment. My goal for 2018 is to become the strongest I’ve ever been for my own benefit, made more important by my upcoming fatherhood.


  • Quit Smoking completely.
  • Meet strength goals using my ongoing Linear Progression program.*
  • Eat 80% Primal/Paleo avoiding sugar and junk.

*I will outline actual numbers in a future post.

So I have three Resolutions following the above format, each has a written blurb followed by three concrete goals. I made sure that each one of the bullets is reasonable and achievable within the next twelve months. This is all written in my journal where I keep story ideas, interesting lines, sketches, and all sorts of crazy stuff. I also took a picture of the outline that I saved on my Evernote app so I can look it over anytime on my phone.

I think that short-term goal setting, specifically when put down on paper, is a fantastic way to focus one’s mind and cut through the mental and emotional clutter that plagues so many of us, especially us writers. I highly recommend using a system like the one above or even just free writing ideas down in your journal or on your blog.

Happy New Year and may all your upcoming goals be achieved!



Defeating Resistance

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Shibuya Crossing. Embrace the crowd!

My wife just shared an awesome experience on her blog today. Climbing. Obstacles. She talks about her recent experience going to a climbing gym and how scared and intimidated she was at first and almost didn’t go. She powered through her doubts and went for it, climbed some walls, learned some new skills, and gained a valuable life experience in the form of self worth and confidence.

Watching my wife go through a fantastic physical and mental transformative journey in this last year has been inspiring. After several setbacks and some self appraisal she realized that she wasn’t happy with her physical and mental health and became determined to kick fear in the head and start achieving her goals. She went from being embarrassed and afraid of working to bench pressing and squatting in gyms filled with combat veterans. She went from swearing that she hated the outdoors to becoming a dedicated hiker. Along her way she inspired me, got me going along, and helped me become a better more mindful and focused individual. Give her blog a read, I think it’s worth the effort.

The fear of failing, the fear of looking stupid, the embarrassment keeping her from going to the gym or going climbing is our worst enemy. We all face it 24/7. It’s the constant nagging voice in our heads that keep us from challenging ourselves and attaining our greatest potential. It’s the voice telling us to stay in and avoid social engagements. It’s the voice that tells us to not take the challenging position at work. It’s the nagging voice that we use to justify our lack of trying new food, new experiences, new environments. It’s what keeps us locked away in a safe comfort bubble. Afraid to branch out and adventure.

Steven Pressfield, in his magnificent book for writers and artists The War of Art, defines this self defeating fear as Resistance. The shadow lingering behind us, constantly whispering in our ear that we are nothing but failures. That we will embarrass ourselves that we will be laughed at. It creeps into our thought process like a parasite and disguises itself as reasonable doubt. It manifests in ideas like “I don’t know, it’s not a good day for working out I think I will have some ice cream and sit on the couch,” or “Ill finish this story next week, right now my internet is rather spotty and I can’t really research.” Resistance is the enemy of art and achievement.

Being an Sailor in Japan I see it first hand in my fellow servicemen and their families. Sailors who have lived in this beautiful and marvelous country for years who refuse to step outside the small local American bubble. During my first week here I was teaching myself how to ride the train. I was approached by another American asking for directions, he had no idea how to use his ticket. After I helped him out I asked him how long has he been in Japan. He floored me by answering three years. This man allowed resistance and his fear of change to lock him up in a small bubble.

“Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do.

Remember our rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.

Resistance is experienced as fear; the degree of fear equates to the strength of Resistance. Therefore the more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that that enterprise is important to us and to the growth of our soul. That’s why we feel so much Resistance. If it meant nothing to us, there’d be no Resistance.”
Steven Pressfield, The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks & Win Your Inner Creative Battles

Of course I am guilty of the same mindset. I often balk at going out with friends because I don’t want to step out of my comfort zone. I never finish my short stories because I’m afraid that once they are done they will be horrible. I make idiotic excuses about why I have to cancel my gym session or why I can’t go running today. But once I read Pressfields book I learned to recognize my biggest enemy. I learned to identify the trigger words and traps laid by resistance.

When I graduated IDC school several months ago I was handed a list of duty stations to chose from. My first gut reaction was to pick something comfortable. I could of stayed in California and gone back to work with the Marines. It would of been well within my comfort zone, I have been there and done that. But after several hours of soul searching with my wife I knew that the scariest choice on the list was the one we had to take. Japan.

I am not going to lie, it has been a challenge. Numerous times; while selling my cars, packing, dealing with the paperwork nightmare, having to be separated from my wife and dog, and living in a hotel room for two months, I have cursed myself for making this choice. Yet as soon as my mind clears and I refocus my perspective I realize what an amazing opportunity I have been given. In my short time here I have seen Mount Fuji, eaten Sushi in Japan, visited ancient Shinto Shrines and Buddhist Temples. I have the privilege of living in a magnificent country and experiencing a vastly different culture first hand. An unforgettable and life changing experience.

I promise myself to continue keeping an eye out for my insidious shadow of resistance. I know that it will be a life long struggle. I know that I will lose many more fights in this never ending war. But I will keep fighting.

But today I celebrate. After nearly two months of running around I was given keys to my new house. A amazing three bedroom house in a Japanese neighborhood. For the next three years I will be living in a foreign country amongst the local people. I expect it to be a challenge, from the language barrier to the cultural. Yet I will keep an eye out for my shadow and keep it out of my life.